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Is Your Christian Leader Allowed to be Part of the Real World?
Brian Kreeger • June 23, 2022
No matter who
your Christian leader is, they are not Jesus.
Sounds obvious, huh?
“Pretty blue eyes and curly brown hair and a clear complexion is how you see Him as He dies for your sins.” Those are the words of
Todd Agnew in his song
My Jesus.
Isn’t this the Jesus we choose to see in our everyday life? I mean, don’t we see the Jesus reaching out His hand to us, the Jesus holding a lamb, the Jesus guiding the hand of the surgeon as he performs surgery on a loved one, the Jesus holding a child, the Jesus teaching a crowd, or the picture of Jesus in all his perfectly manicured glory hanging on the cross with the bright light behind Him highlighting His silhouette? That’s who we typically see, right?
The second part of the lyric from Todd Agnew’s song provides a contrast to the beginning: “But the word says He was battered and scarred or did we miss that part.” I think most people do. Absolutely brilliant lyrics.
What we have here in this song is an entirely accurate depiction of Jesus in our mind’s eye, no matter which view we choose to see Jesus from at a particular moment of time in our lives.
Attempting not to be irreverent
in the comparison, I ask this question: How do we see our Christian leaders?
Battered and scarred, accepting the unjust punishment of this world? Damaged? Perfect, with pretty blue eyes and curly brown hair? Or how about an embodiment of the perfect pictures as described in the previous paragraphs?
We may have an incredible amount of respect for our executive leaders.
(This blog focuses on starting a conversation centered on preventing the fall of nonprofit leaders. I write it from a Christian perspective, but all leaders will benefit. Be sure to sign up to receive these articles via email every Tuesday at
briankreeger.com as well as taking a look at previous blog articles. In addition to receiving these articles two days before they hit social media, you will receive the article "5 Early Indicators of a Christian Nonprofit Leadership Fall" along with the Contents, Introduction and the Appendix (My story) of my book,
The Courageous Ask: A Proactive Approach to Prevent the Fall of Christian Nonprofit Leaders.)
In fact, maybe it’s admiration because they have so inspired us. This is especially true if they are founders who have seemingly created something from nothing with God’s guidance. We may be amazed at what God has done through them in courageously moving forward, accomplishing what people thought was impossible. We hold them in high esteem and put them on a pedestal.
Somewhere inside us, we recognize they are human and are not perfect, but our focus remains on the great things they have done. We typically forget their humanness since they have been able to put on airs that everything is under control for the benefit of the advancement of the organization.
Side note: Many reading this are saying to themselves, “I know our leaders are not perfect.” Yes, I believe you believe that. But what about when they prove it? Through tons of interviews I have found that this idea is recognized as an abstract idea many times when human nature takes over after a leader proves their imperfection.
Somehow Jesus supernaturally handled all that was thrown at Him and responded in a way that only He could; He was God incarnate. He responded with incredible grace and mercy to those who were the true offenders.
I suspect that many times
we expect our leaders to be Jesus Himself, instead of a fallible human being—a follower and disciple just like us. But they are not Jesus. We don't necessarily do it on purpose, it just happens.
I hope that makes you think a bit.
While I know I am using Jesus to compare and contrast the picture of our nonprofit executives, the same principles apply in a non-Christian organization.
Part of the proactive approach to preventing the fall of a nonprofit leader is recognizing they are no different than us, and properly applying that recognition.
Todd Agnew, in his song, says that he believes “Jesus would prefer Beale Street to the stained-glass crowd.” I agree.
Setting aside the fact that I enjoy Beale Street in Memphis (love that barbecue!), I believe what Todd is saying is that Jesus preferred to be in the real world where people are living real life, experiencing real joy in between the very real battles of the hurt, pain, and other difficulties that infect their lives.
Hurt, pain, and difficulty are ever present in the life of a nonprofit executive leader. In his book
Leadership Pain, Samuel Chand writes that leadership is actually a magnet for pain and comes in many forms.
Leadership pain is part of the real world Jesus would prefer to be present in.
While many people in the Christian community strive to represent Jesus in the real world, they forget that they can represent Jesus in the life of an executive nonprofit leader who is dealing with very real leadership pain.
Does the real world exist in your church or nonprofit? More specifically, is the real world
allowed to exist in your church or nonprofit?
Another line in Agnew’s song says, “My Jesus would never be accepted in my church. The blood and dirt on His feet might stain the carpet.” This is a picture of society coming into our Christian communities and our acceptance of it. Don’t we want broken society coming into our churches?
Sometimes that society comes in the form of our leader who is struggling in a church or nonprofit.
I certainly recognize what James 4:4 states: “Don’t you know that friendship with the world means enmity against God?” But there must be room for the grace and mercy that the Gospel provides.
I’m not talking about friendship with the world; I am talking about proper application of grace and mercy to the world that needs the message we have to offer. That is sometimes hard as we battle our own human pride.
I have seen tremendous grace and mercy toward the sinner provided in a wide variety of Christian contexts. But I have also seen and experienced the opposite, when a leader sinfully brings the real world into the Christian community. A real world that everyone, including Christians, exists in and that God addresses all throughout scripture.
Are the people
that brought the real world in still genuinely loved and accepted without harsh judgment and arrogance, recognizing we fight some of the same battles, only secretly?
Yes, I understand the need for appropriate action to take place in the unrepentant heart of a sinner in a church or nonprofit context. That is certainly described in my articles and my book. The board has a responsibility to deal with this type of thing.
Here is a good question: Is your leader, whether a pastor or the executive of a Christian nonprofit, allowed to be part of the fallible real world, and are they still loved and accepted if they knowingly or unknowingly allow the real world into their own life?
The inability of a Christian nonprofit leader to be themselves, and to live with the fear of transparency with their accountability structures or those they come in contact with can be the source of a fall. This fear can definitely cause loneliness and isolation, many times leading to a fall.
And what are they afraid of? They are afraid that people will see that they are no different than them. That’s a very real fear, but a fear that should not exist.
I hope you choose to be where Jesus chooses to be, walking alongside real people (including our leaders) in the real world.
You don’t need
to be in a formal accountability structure in order to help your leader stay in line. I try to remember what author Nancy Duarte wrote, “Sometimes all it takes is a kind word of encouragement to get your heroes back on the right path.”
Well, I believe it takes a hero to do just that. You can be a hero by extending that kind word of encouragement that gets a nonprofit leader back on track.
Be Courageous!
Be Proactive!
Nancy Duarte, “Like Yoda You Must Be,” Duarte, October 22, 2015, https://www.duarte.com/presentation-skills-resources/like-yoda-you-must-be-2/.
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